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Angel 正沉思著，
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"人間的四月天" ~~~~~

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Angel 認為還有無私的愛！！

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Far Out isn't Far Enough ~~~

" When you are faced with nothing , you can always fill up with something !! "

" Don't Hope, you Cope ! " --- Tomi Ungerer . — watching Far Out Isn't Far Enough: The Tomi Ungerer Story.

Who Am I ? by Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche

慈誠羅珠轉貼文：by 宗薩欽哲仁波切

在寻找“我是谁？”的过程里，「孤单与无聊」非常的重要【宗萨钦哲】

学生问：如何能找到“我是谁”，非常想知道答案。

仁波切答：当佛陀在菩提树下时，第一个星期他把所有的时间都花在思考“我是谁”这个问题上。我想告诉你：对于你提出的：“如何能找到“我是谁”，这个问题本身非常重要。我并不是说它没有答案。但在佛教里面，寻找“我是谁”本身比得到答案更重要。

学生继续问：是不是因为问题本身让我们去思考？

仁波切：是的，所以大家应该持续地去思考“我是谁”。距离菩提伽耶不远的灵鹫峰，很多菩萨曾讨论的就是这个问题：“我是谁”。其中有观世音菩萨，舍利子..等大菩萨。但是我想说：在寻找“我是谁”这个问题上会碰到很多的挑战，其中有很大的诱惑，这个诱惑就是“想得到答案”。因为人类有种习惯，就是我们想要很快解决问题，我们要警觉这种诱惑。我想让你们去问，“我是谁”。但是我对你们的答案并不是很有兴趣，我只是对你们不断的去问自己“我是谁”这个问题更感兴趣。让我来给你们一些启示，怎么样来问这个问题。你们用手去拉自己的耳朵。这样耳朵会变大。同时也会有一种感觉，对吗？是谁在感觉它？是谁在感受？

还有一些例子，如：你突然忘记你在公众面前忘了拉裤子的拉链，或者一位女士忘了扣上衣的口子，你突然想：我希望没有人看到！谁是这个人特别荒谬的在想，拉链拉起来没有？因为我们从来没有带着拉链生下来，我们也不是带着这些钮扣生下来。然后还有更糟糕的东西，这时你感觉到内疚，丢面子，抑郁，感觉到空虚，感觉到没有价值，感觉无聊、孤独。我们应该去寻找“我是谁”的答案，但是所有的这些无聊啊，是不是扣扣子，是不是拉拉链，面子，罪恶感，所有这些东西都是我，就像海上的灯塔一样。在找自我的过程当中，在黑暗中，“我是谁”？“我是谁？”这些就是一些灯塔的光亮，Hi,我在这儿，我在这儿！作为一个佛教徒，我祈祷，希望你们总是觉得抑郁，感觉到内疚，忘记拉拉链，忘记扣纽扣，在那里你真的会发现一个赤裸裸的人，无聊和孤独非常的重要，当然这需要在你知道如何运用“无聊”“孤独”时。

但是大部分的时间，当你觉得无聊孤单时，你是怎么做的呢，你会去上微博，上Facebook，看电影啊，参加晚会啊，在这样的情况，你就已经不再寻找“我是谁”的答案了...



 

Why she hates you so?

" The Reason your girl Hated you was because you made her Hate herself instead of Love !! "

      How true !! 🍷🍷

      — watching movie.

Question : Does that imply that we cannot tell the truth to girls?

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  Angelina Lee 闕大哥, no..why do you think " truth" will let her hate her self ? 
  I think not .
  Only judgmental concepts and statements about your loved ones will hurt her , which result in her feeling of inadequacy and resentment of herself ....See More

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  Angelina Lee Dear Sis , good question ! A life time story and from many movies we have watched .... 

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  闕河立 Very excellent comment. It is very tired to talk to a person who explains much of the words as judgments against him/her.
  Concept of judgments create its own hell. Love will find its own way.

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  Angelina Lee However, if I really hated someone, I would learn to forgive his vulgar behavior, and be grateful to his giving me opportunity to discern the reality and to grow . REALITY as the truth of all phenomenon are impermanent, including physical appearance, romance, love relationships, a successful enterprise, fame….. As in the old saying, to forgive others is to liberate yourself !! Moreover, we are all individuals but living in the inter interdependent universe as I constantly remind myself and always forgot…:):)

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Life is too short for crappy friends !!

One good friend who loves you unconditionally is far better than 100 superficial friends who really don’t care all that much about you, trust me.

If you’re feeling lonely in study hall at 14 or in your cubicle at 34, I hope you’ll try to rally your courage. I hope you’ll put your energy into living your life as your authentic self, with purpose and excitement. I hope you’ll turn your focus from being uninvited, toward your talents and gifts, cultivating them to make the world (or someone’s day) better.

Please read the entire article as following  : By ANNA LIND THOMAS, Babble.com
August 28, 2014 12:06 PM

Dear lovely girls,

I have a secret. Being popular, liked and included by your peers is totally overrated. I can see your eyes are glazing over. Hold on, let me put on a One-Direction T-shirt so I can get your attention. OK, let’s try that again.

Don’t get me wrong, friends are important. We are wired to long for community. You’ll desperately want to be in one when you’re in school. I hope you develop friendships that allow you to be your true self. Friends who care for you, support you and make you feel good about who you are. But if you can’t find these special friends, don’t panic. And please don’t get desperate.

There isn’t much I’m going to say here that you’ll probably believe. Hearing someone say popularity is overrated when you’re in the lonely abyss of being unpopular is like me telling you that one day you might be a little embarrassed by your Justin Bieber bed sheets. Right now, your Bieber Fever won’t allow you to hear me. I understand.

Let me just tell you what I know to be true. Maybe someday when you feel sad, lonely, jealous or excluded, you’ll remember little snippets of what I said and take courage.

Life is way too short for crappy friends.

We just don’t have time for that nonsense. Each one of us has a purpose for being here. Some might tell you that it’s all random and you have as much eternal relevance as a cup of dirt, so just have fun while you can. But I hope you won’t believe them. You have gifts and talents, activities you enjoy and fill you up. Maybe you like to draw or write stories. Maybe you can sing or play an instrument. Perhaps you’re a wiz at math and love architecture.

Maybe it’s none of those things, but there’s something. I know it.

Now is a wonderful time to cultivate these talents. To practice, play and explore everything that lights you up; all the gifts you can give to make the world a better place. Now is the perfect time to start to discover who you really are.

A good friend worth keeping will support you and what you love to do. They’ll celebrate your talents and they may even share them. A good friend brings out the best in you, loves you and even forgives you when you’re in a real salty mood and tell them their artistic portrayal of Katy Perry on the back of their Five Star notebook looks like the school librarian with a lazy eye.

You’re only human. You probably didn’t mean librarian with a lazy eye in a bad way, necessarily. Just be sure to say sorry, though, just in case.

Our desire to be liked (or have our selfies literally liked on Facebook) is normal, but it can outweigh our desire to truly be ourselves. This is where the real trouble begins.

If we live our life seeking other people’s approval, we’ll never actually live our life. And we only have one shot at this, so let’s not screw this part up.

There are obvious signs you might be in a friendship you shouldn’t be in. Obvious signs could include that the person makes you feel bad about yourself, you’re constantly paranoid about losing the friendship or the person blatantly uses you and may even be mean and verbally abusive toward you from time to time.

But there are subtle signs, too. They don’t outwardly treat you badly, but there’s just something about the way they interact with you that makes you feel inadequate. Sometimes you decide to hide certain aspects of yourself because you’re not convinced they’ll like or accept all of you. Sometimes you’ll start compromising your values to have something in common. Sometimes you find yourself acting like the person you think they want to be friends with rather than just being the precious being you are.

Sometimes, even though you’re surrounded by “friends,” you start to feel lonely and insecure. They’re your friends, but the friendship has limits. Maybe your feelings don’t matter if they inconvenience them or if you ever share that they have hurt your feelings, they decide you’re a little too exhausting to keep around.

Did I mention life is too short for crappy friends?

Here’s something else you probably won’t believe: If you stop worrying about being liked, popular or even having someone to sit with at lunch, and start focusing on becoming a better you, sharpening your skills and talents so that you may be a good friend to others, amazing people will start to gravitate to you.

I know, too much hocus pocus, right? But the truth is, we attract exactly what we put out. If we’re pretending to be someone else, all we’ll attract are other people pretending to be someone else, creating fake friendships with a bunch of people who will probably make us feel bad about ourselves by lunchtime. No thanks, sister.

Sometimes you’ll find that some people just aren’t able to be a good friend to you, even if they want to be. Their traumas, insecurities, anxieties, health issues or life circumstances can make it difficult for them to give you much of anything, let alone a friendship you can rely on. It doesn’t mean they’re nasty or they don’t like you (well, sometimes it does) it simply means they can’t give you what you need: a friendship worth investing time in. So stop investing time in it.

Either way, to be our true, authentic selves takes real courage and it may mean we won’t always have a surplus of friends. For a season, it may seem we don’t have any at all. Many people will grow old never finding that courage.

But I can tell you this, they’ll spend their last days wishing they spent more time focusing on becoming their best self and giving their gifts to others, rather than worrying if everyone is at Applebee’s laughing hysterically without them.

Although your life and priorities will evolve into adulthood, I’d like to tell you these problems with friendships will go away completely. Maybe with you, they will. But for many of us, our desire to be liked, to have good friends and to be included still resonate loudly well into adulthood. Whether the person next door invites the entire neighborhood except our family to their party, or all the “cool people” huddle together like an impenetrable army at a professional conference, grown women care about this, too.

Why? Because we all want to be loved. So badly, at times, we’ll settle for the superficial bullcrap when we all deserve the real deal. Your ego wants to be liked at any cost. Your true self wants to love others and trusts it will eventually be returned without fussing too much about the details.

It’s hard to be our authentic selves; it makes us vulnerable. It’s hard to give and love without the expectation of getting anything in return. We typically give what we so desperately want to receive. It’s hard to accept that friends worth having are actually quite rare, when there’s a void, we want to fill it fast.

But it’s easy to care about what other people think. It’s easy to pretend to be someone you’re not. It’s easy to focus our lives on things that don’t matter, sacrificing everything that does.

One good friend who loves you unconditionally is far better than 100 superficial friends who really don’t care all that much about you, trust me.

If you’re feeling lonely in study hall at 14 or in your cubicle at 34, I hope you’ll try to rally your courage. I hope you’ll put your energy into living your life as your authentic self, with purpose and excitement. I hope you’ll turn your focus from being uninvited, toward your talents and gifts, cultivating them to make the world (or someone’s day) better.

And here’s an idea: be a good friend to someone else and see what happens. I know, I’m a genius.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to change out of this One Direction T-shirt. I don’t want to betray my one true love, John Stamos.

Are you Committed? After "Eat Pray and Love " !

Following " Eat Pray and Love" , this is a continued love story by E. Gilbert , " Committed", in which she once again has a soul searching journey in the meditation of fidelity, family and commitment .

Oscar Wild once said , " A man can be happy with any woman as long as he does not love her ".

Angel agree and disagree . 
It all depends on the definition of Love, whether it is a romantic possessive love or a compassionate love .

What do you think ? My friends . 

— drinking hot chocolate.

Gilbert interviewed these women in a Vietnamese Village, where is proclaimed to have the happiest marriage and families in the world. When she asked them: Is your husband a good husband? No one understood her question, because they think this question is so irrelevant as similar to the question " Is your son a good son?" They do not possess the perception of judgement of Husband, or Wife or Son, as they love them as they are . 

Perhaps, this  unconditional loving and kindness attitude toward your loved ones is the major and only key to happy families . 

Love is innocent ~~~

Sometimes, one has to say something nice about her ~~~ ;) 

She walks in beauty, like the night

of cloudless climes and starry skies.

And all that's best of dark and bright,

Meets in her aspect and her eyes;

Thus mellow'd to that tender light,

Which heaven to gaudy day denies. 

One shade the more, one ray the less.

Had half impair'd the nameless grace,

Which waves in every raven tress,

Or softly lightens over her face.

Where thoughts serenely sweet express 

How pure, how dear their dwelling -place.

And on that cheek and over that brow

So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,

The smiles that win, the tints that glow,

But tell of days in goodness spent,

A mind at peace with all below, 

A heart whose love is innocent. 

---- Lord Byron 1788 -- 1824 

明就仁波切親誦百字明咒 Vajrasattva mantra of 100 syllables chanted by Mingyur Rinpoche