Friday, November 21, 2014

Feeling the Warmth of the Water ~~~

Never search your happiness in others, for it will make you feel alone;
search your happiness within yourself, and you will feel happy even when you are left alone. — drinking cocktails.
 — at Somewhere Under the Same Sky.

Barbecue at the Beach ~~~













Thursday, November 20, 2014

Smiling in Exotic Land ~~~~




 Getting Sporty on the Beach ~~~~

at Chiva Som, Bangkok

A 25 year old boy said to Angel : I want to have a girl friend like you in a younger version…

How much younger than you I asked?
He said: about 4 years younger …

Should I feel pleased or else ? Nonetheless, I am flattered in a way , which demonstrated my vanity and desire prevailed sporadically now and then. I am still human in a way … haha 

In fact, I was innocently happy enough to post as a teenager as my other male friend described when I walked on the beach gazing up the orange rising sun , without much distraction and affliction in my mind!

Pure and Happy …

Yes, no make up  in this early morning …




Saturday, November 8, 2014

Embrace the Chaos ~~~


12 Reasons to Embrace the Chaos Next Year!

1. Accepting the chaos of life is better than trying to fight it
Life has always been in unpredictable and full of uncertainty. We just didn't realize it. Accept it. Don't fight it. Accepting the reality of our world today is the most important way to learn to live in it. Let go of your ego. Let go of trying to force order and perfection to an imperfect life full of ups and downs and uncertainty. Often, stress, anxiety and tension occurs when you fight hard to change something you cannot change. You can't control the chaos. You can only change you... your thoughts and your actions. And that's really good news... to focus on what you CAN control... you!
2. You cannot predict the future
Uncertainty about how things will turn out tomorrow holds a lot of us back from pursuing our life ambitions, relationships or business ideas. We waste so much time trying to make sure the path we take is the "right one," when the reality is that there is no right path... just the one you're on! No one knows what's going to happen tomorrow. That's a good thing in some respects because the walls around us are malleable and move constantly. You and I have just as good a shot as anyone at success and happiness. Stop trying to figure out the future and CREATE moments by working towards your purpose in the here and now. This moment right now is the only one you can be certain of.
3. You will feel better doing than not doing
Taking a step forward in any direction makes you feel like you have some level of control of your life. When you take action, you stop over thinking and get less anxious because in some sense, you are creating your own future in the here and now. You get a rush when you're consumed with activity geared towards pursuing a goal, irrespective of how tough the goal. You feel like you're in charge again because you are... of your thoughts and your actions. The positive energy generated by movement of hands and body in forward motion towards the pursuit of a higher purpose, a life-long trip, a business goal or to raise a child, is often what keeps us energetic, youthful and feel alive.
4. One thing always leads to another
Like a stone thrown into a pond of water, somehow one tiny little step forward puts in motion other pieces, rippling away, leading you to places, people and opportunities that you can never have imagined. You didn't get to where you are right now by your perfectly laid out plans years ago. So many of us arrived where we are through the zig zag motion of life, through stepping stones that were laid out all over the place. Some of the greatest things in your life right now, came to you by chance, randomness and luck.
5. You will become a better person... faster, stronger, leaner and sharper
The mind is a muscle and like any muscle sometimes the mind needs resistance and tension to grow and develop as much as it needs nourishment and positive energy. Use the chaos of life to learn and develop. Adversity forces you to dig down deep inside to make you rediscover your inner strength or to fire synapsis in your brain that create new learnings. Moving forward in uncertainty forces the potential energy that is already within you to come out.
6. You are resilient and know how to adapt
You don't know what real strength lies within unless you're put in a situation that forces you to bring it out. You have an innate ability deep within to adapt and improvise to our new environment. You can handle it because your DNA has gone through a history of difficult times and has progressed ever since. As human beings, we have this awesome ability to persevere in really difficult times with nothing more than what you've been given: an able body and a strong mind. The resiliency inside all of is dormant but kicks in when you move forward in life.
7. You are meant for bigger things
Within each of us lies a potential for great things. Think about the possibility of becoming who you really want to become... a better parent, a more successful business person who creates jobs for many, a better spouse or partner or simply contribute more to society. This great person will never be realized unless you take steps to move forward in life and do something different... to accept the chaos and move forward anyway. All of us are meant to create positive impact to all those around us, in our own unique way.
8. Chaos forces us to clarify what's really important... and what's not
When you embrace the chaos and move forward in life, you get crystal clear as to what makes you more fulfilled, more satisfied and ultimately, more happy. Self discovery and self realizations happen during moments of confusion, clutter and consistent complexity when you're feeling lost, headed for trouble. That's when your mind gets really clear as to what's the most important thing you want out of life. Because the mind cannot focus on all of those things, your mind suddenly awakens and hones in. For some of us, a big challenge or adversity that seems insurmountable at the time, jolts us to recognize what we really want. And for some people, it becomes less about the money... and more about the relationships, the family, the kids and good health.
9. It will make you grateful
Humility is a wonderful thing and for some of us, it only comes when you're forced to deal with something life changing. Life is so unpredictable, fast and really, really short. When you accept the ups and downs and the uncertainty of life, you begin to be grateful for what you have not on what you don't. The joy and happiness that comes from appreciating what you have adds fuel to the fire already burning inside to achieve your life long goals. You'll only realize how great of a life you have when your wake up and see the realities of our existence. Being grateful makes you so much happier in the smallest things.
10. Chaos can be transformative
Sometimes difficult, unpredictable and terrible experiences awaken us to the realities of our existence often encouraging us to get on with work we have been waiting to do. Whether we like it or not, it forces us to make difficult choices and take bold steps forward in life. And we might have to go through these difficult times in order to truly transform into the kind of person we want to become. Once you actually embrace uncertainty and go ahead with a life goal or a relationship, you begin to change, discovering new things about yourself. You begin to value different things in life... to have deeper, more richer conversations with friends, colleagues and family. To find real meaning and joy in the smallest things. Like a caterpillar, you transform into a butterfly.
11. Things have a way of working out in the end
People say, "things have a way of working out in the end" because it is often so true. Perhaps not always but there's a reason why it is a commonly used phrase. For me, in a strange way, you have to have some level of faith perhaps a belief that what accidents happen in life are there to teach us something. To shape our life, to shape our core beliefs, to make us who we are. When you're in the thick of uncertainty and chaos at work or in your personal life, it's hard to see but think of all the times in your past, when you thought it was really, really bad... and maybe it really was... but often it isn't as bad as we think and things work out.
12. Going with the flow is a lot of fun
I used to be this type A, order loving, always hyper-stressed guy. Still am... sort of. By learning to take action, let go and see what happens, I've had a lot less stress and a lot more fun. Life is good... sure it's hard... but it's still good and can be so much more fun if you go with the flow. Some of most fun I have ever had occurred when I was working hard on creating a new business with my wife, while performing at a high level in my corporate career. Moments came up where I realized that wow... this is so cool. It was a lot better than sitting around in anxiety and stress waiting for the shoe to drop. Ten years from now, you may remember the difficult times but you'll have more significant memories of the times where you joined in, moved forward, embraced spontaneity and said, why not!

Friday, November 7, 2014

Private THoughts ~~~


閱讀像戀愛一樣,
是接觸式運動,contacting sports
而不是只用雙眼看的!
當然讀者與作者的身體接觸只限於腦袋,
真正的問題是兩個腦袋的相遇!

在這個人人皆可成作家的讀物氾濫年代,
閱讀應該是一個需要判斷力做出的決定 a judgement call .
認真的閱讀就像養成的愛好,就像抽象藝術,和古典音樂,要時間浸淫才會懂得欣賞甚至樂在其中。

學者稱這種能力為享受高層次樂趣的能力。
capacity for higher pleasure ...


" 私想 Private Thoughts: 性,愛,自由,幸福,痛苦,宗教,男人與女人的私密聯想。"
by 林沛理

Best Japanese Restaurant in Taipei ~~~~


My Book Club Luncheon yesterday was  Inspiring !!

As I look closely into my Astrology Chart, I realize how much it indicates the complexities of our insights! Not only the Sun Sign, Moon Sign, Ascending Sign, the angle of each stars, but also  the certain house your stars dwell in will influence the outlook of your personality and your fortune !! More importantly, as we understand more about ourselves, we would know the strength and weakness of our insight, so that we can confront with the issue we need to resolve and learn to develop a more meaningful and flourished life!  

When we walk into a new environment, we always appear  the personality of Ascending sign, while we protect ourselves by showing our moon sign as walking down the street passing by strangers, and as we become more acquainted , we would reveal our Sun sign, at last, when we become close friends, we will show our subconscious sign, moon. 

Believe it or not , the Astrological expert said I have a creative and contradictory mind, and sometimes I suppress my own feeling too much,  which means I am emotional and sentimental insight but seldom express myself. The lesson I should learn this life is to cultivate and train my mind, where is my true home. 

Furthermore,  she said I  should start writing or create something which will be published, Ha, Isn't that inspiring ?! 





Sunday, November 2, 2014

Magic in the Moonlight ~~~~


Angel has been enchanted with the word "Magic" since Halloween .... Believe it or not . 
Woody Alan's romantic film had never disappointed me, as he always submerges into character's deepest subconsciousness discovering the purest form of love , beside his analytical cynical remarks ! ~~~ after "Magic in the Moon light "


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